One Morning in May

May 4, 2013 at 6:43 pm (Gratitude, Realizations) (, , )

An eye opener this morning-

An employee at a local store has never smiled at me. Something about her demeanor has had me leaving a few times either feeling like she was judging me and/or my crazy kids and/or my bad purchase choices, or judging me for judging her for being a sour puss.

Today, on a slow unrushed Saturday morning, we managed to have a lovely long conversation on multiple topics. It was just a random interaction, yet it nearly made me cry.

I don’t think she was ever judging me. And I certainly shouldn’t have judged her for being a reserved women who doesn’t find starting a conversation any easier than I do.

Turn’s out she’s perfectly friendly once she gets to talking.

I have realized something over and over in life, and today reminded me again- People’s reactions to you have something to do with what you say and a little to do with how you look and a lot to do with what’s going on in their own lives.

The less history of interaction you’ve had with the person, i.e. a store clerk, the more the reaction has nothing to do with you. In fact, it’s fairly narcissistic to think otherwise.

Thusly, I can, and NEED TO, let negative interactions with strangers slide off my back as not applicable, not judgements on me.

And then remember not to judge them back.

Thanks Lady. I needed that.

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